1)
Everybody doesn’t have to love me
Not everyone
has to love me or even like me. I don’t necessarily like everybody
I know, so why should everybody else like me? I enjoy being liked
and being loved, bit if somebody doesn’t like me, I will still
be okay and still feel like I am an okay person. I cannot make somebody
like me, any more than someone can get me to like them. I don’t
need approval all he time. If someone does not approve of me, I
will still be okay.
2)
It is Okay to make mistakes
Making mistakes
is something we all do, and I am still a fine and worthwhile person
when I make them. There is no reason for me to get upset when I
make a mistake. I am trying, and if I make a mistake, I am going
to continue trying. I can handle making a mistake. It is okay for
others to make a mistake.
I am trying, and if I make a mistake, I am going to continue trying.
I can handle making a mistake. It is okay for others to make mistakes,
too. I will accept mistakes in myself and also mistakes that others
make.
3)
Other people are Okay and I am Okay
People who
do thing I don’t like are not necessarily bad people. They
should not necessarily be punished just because I don’t like
what they do or did. There is no reason why other people should
be the way I want them to be, and there is no reason why I should
be the way somebody else wants me to be. People will be whatever
they want to be, and I will be whatever I want to be. I cannot control
other people or change them. They are who they are; we all deserve
basic respect.
4)
I Don’t Have to Control things
I will survive
if things are different than what I want them to be. I can accept
things the way they are, accept people the way they are, and accept
myself the way I am. There is no reason to get upset if I can’t
change things to fit my idea of how they ought to be. There is no
reason why I should have to like everything. Even if I don’t
like it, I can live with it.
5)
I am responsible for my day
I am responsible
for how I feel and what I do. Nobody can make me feel anything.
If I have a rotten day, I am the one who allowed it to be that way.
If I have a great day, I am the one who deserves the credit for
being positive. It is not the responsibility of there people to
change so that I can feel better. I am the one who is in charge
of my life.
6) I Can Handle It Went Things Go Wrong
I don’t
need to watch out for things to go wrong. Things usually go just
fine, and when they don’t, I can handle it. I don’t
have to waste energy worrying. The sky won’t fall in; things
will be okay.
7)
It Is Important to Try
I can. Even
though I may be faced with difficult tasks, it is better to try
than to avoid them. Avoiding a task does not give me any opportunities
for success or joy, but trying does. Things worth having are worth
the effort. I might not be able to do everything. But I can do some
thing.
8)
I Am Capable
I don’t
need someone else to take care of my problems. I am capable. I can
take care of myself. I can make decisions for myself. I can think
for myself. I don’t have to depend on somebody else to take
care of me.
9)
I Can Change
I don’t
have to be a certain way because of what has happened in the past.
Every day is a new day. It’s silly to think I can’t
help being the way I am. Of course I can. I can change.
10)
Other People Are Capable
I can’t
solve other people’s problems for them. I don’t have
to take on other people’s problems as if they were my own.
I don’t need to change other people to fix up their lives.
They are capable and can take care of themselves, and can solve
their own problems. I can care and be of some help, but I can’t
do everything for them.
11)
I Can Be Flexible
There is more
than one way to do something. More than one person has had good
ideas that will work. There is no one and only “best: way.
Everybody has ideas that are worthwhile. Some may make more sense
to me than others, but everyone’s ideas are worthwhile, and
everyone has something worthwhile to contribute.
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